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Fear of Change

“Verily Allah will not change the condition of a people until the change what is with themselves.” H.Q. 13:11

 

Highly successful people have many things in common. One such quality is the ability to expect, accept, embrace and love change. People who cant handle constant change are usually those who are easily stressed and break down if things change to much to often. Lets face it these people dont really accomplish much at all. As they go through life stuck in their comfort zones and refusing to take the path of risk, they die never really having lived.  Fear is what keeps us in our comfort zones. You can’t reach your fullest potential thinking, being and existing inside the box. If you are unhappy with your current situation, change is what is required in order for you to get different results. Personally I enjoy the waam, baam, zhipt and wow that come with each day. I guess you can say that I am living an onomatopoeia of a life….

 

 

Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” ~ Brian Tracy

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Ramadan Mubarak

As salaamu alaikum,

I hope that your fasting is going well and that you are meeting your Ramadan goals. We are now on the 15th day of Ramadan. What were your goals? Now is time to assess where you are with respect to your initial goals. Whatever the case know that Ramadan is an agenda to change your condition. Allah says: ” Verily we will not change the condition of a people until they change it themselves.” How are you doing with respect to the main goal of Taqwa? I enjoy being disciplined. I think that is the greatest thing this month teaches. First of all you have to have the goal of Taqwa (being conscious and aware of God), then you have to have discipline to get up for Suhur and Fajr. Furthermore you have to push yourself to read at least a 30th of the Quran. Then make all of your salah on time. All along the way, you also have to be careful of what you think, how you act and what you say.  For Iftar you must discipline your eating habits so as not to overeat so that you can make Isha and Tarawih. Then you must be disciplined in your sleep. When you think about it this regimen of discipline could actually make you a highly successful person.  Perhaps we could carry these habits outside of Ramadan. When you look at those who are highly successful whether Muslim or not you see the common traits are high doses of:

1. Discipline

2. Goal Setting

3. Conscious/Awareness

4. Controlling what/when/how much they eat

5. Controlling their sleep, how they sleep and how many hours

6. Repetition

Do you want change your condition for the better?

Freedom from Stress

stress, originally uploaded by rafa2010.

Anas reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, used to supplicate, “O Allah, there is no ease except what You make easy, and you alone can turn a difficulty into ease.” (Ibn As-sinni)

When I ran accross this picture I laughed initially because it reminded me of what corporate America was doing to me before I left it. I think stress is terribly underestimated. I recentl watched a National Geographic documentary on Stress. It was a true eye opener. I used to be what I called a “corporate animal.” This is someone who goes to work everyday on high energy, takes on numerous projects, brings work home, works on the weekend and then eventually gets burned out. After a couple of weeks of burnout, this person starts the cycle over again. All this in the name of getting ahead in one’s career. Before I quit/got fired, I was working 10 and 12 hours days in accounting and finance. During month end close I could easily work 16 hours. No amount of productivity systems could balance the loads of work that was coming down the pipeline. Alhamdulillah I later came to the conclusion that I was not a good fit for corporate america. It just seemed as though I was a rat on a treadmeal that would never turn off. I was always on my blackberry, email, phone etc. I would drink loads of Starbucks to keep me going. Little did I know that I was putting my body under loads us stress. If I would have stayed on that path I would probably be dead by 52 (Allah knows best). Studies have shown that people with the Type A personality are more prone to heart disease. These are people that tend to be perfectionists and are pretty hard on themselves. What good is it to always be working to get ahead and reach goals that are unattainable? Many career centered individuals spend their lives chasing career goals. When they reach the goals they are off to something else. I am all for setting goals and reaching them. The problem with most people that set goals is they stay so focused on the goal itself but never enjoy the process of getting there. These people live their entire lives in the future and never enjoying the present. For these people, every friendship, relationship, golf game etc is seen as a means of advancing their career or business endeavors.

There is no such thing as a stress free life. Allah (swt) created us in toil and struggle. I think life would be pretty boring without any stress. The problem with most people is they never turn off or detach. Most people are always connected to work, facebook, email, phones etc. When you see a lot of people they are always in a rush and never able to slow down. Most stress in our lives is unnecessary and can be eliminated by taking some simple steps. Here are 10 simple (or maybe not so simple) ways to reduce or eliminate stress.

1. Identify – This is probably the most important. You have to know those things that are stressing you out before you can eliminate them. You can even make a top ten list of stressors in your life.
2. Disorganization – Being disorganized is another common stressor. Most people are drowing in paperwork, email, tasklists etc. A simple productivity/task management system is important to overcome stress related to being disorganized.
3. Being Late – Being late is a very common stressor. When you wake up late or have to get that extra 30 minutes of facebook, we end having to rush to get ready, rush to get there and this puts the body in fight or flight mode. Make a conscious effort to start getting ready earlier. I try to be at least 15 minutes early to all of my engagements. This gives me time to breath and get settled prior to.
4. Multi-tasking – This is probably the biggest productivity killer around. Learn to single task. By single tasking you can get more flow and enjoyment from your work as well as do a better job.
5. Simplify – Most people are in need of simplifying their life. Learn to simplify your work, your email, information intake, routines, committments etc.
6. Unschedule – Learn to take some things off the table in your schedule. Learn to leave open space in your schedule during the day so you can actually breath and enjoy life. Learn to batch smaller tasks and schedule enough time for the bigger tasks.
7. Slow down – Instead of rushing through life, learn to take things slowly. Stop rushing through your food, enjoy the people around you, enjoy nature. This can remove tons of stress.
8. Quit your job – Our work is the biggest stressor. When I quit my job and started working for myself the loads of stress just went away. Learn to create your own opportunity or go into a field where you are helping humanity.
9. Eat Healthy – Do I really need to elaborate here?
10. Exercise – As little as 30 minutes a day can make a world of difference.

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Back by Popular Demand

I have been getting numerous responses to start back posting. I really really appreciate the support. There have been a lot of changes in my life that have caused me to shift my paradigm and way of thinking. I plan to start posting again very shortly. I have been doing a lot of experiments on myself and plan to share them. So look forward to more articles on;
 
  • Zuhd and Minamalism
  • Enjoying Life Now
  • Slowing Down
  • Uncluttering Your Life
  • Finances and Getting out of Debt
  • More on Productivity
 
 
 
The reality is that many Muslims are not living life on their own terms and to the fullest in a permissable manner. As a result I also plan to introduce/offer my Life and Financial Management Coaching sessions. Many Muslims have needs for Life Coaches and Financial Advisors that are tailored to our specific needs. I offer these services but plan to offer on a wider (world wide) scale and at a much affordable rate than my local clients. Stay tuned and make dua.
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